Achieving Your Goals/Dreams

[LuLu Rogers]

I feel like I'll never be able to become what I want to be in life. I've told very few people what I really want to do because some of them have laughed at me and thought it was a joke. I know most people say "You can do anything you set your mind to" but I come from a small town, I've only taken a few college classes and I make $15 a day or less waiting tables. I'm just so hurt and discouraged because I want this SO BAD and I have no idea how I'll ever make it. :crying:

[beautifuldreamer]

I know how you feel... maybe a little bit. I mean, I'm not sure what exactly you want so badly in life that you don't feel like you can tell many people, but I do know that if someone laughs at your dreams and aspirations, they aren't worth your time. I know what it's like to work for minimum wage and take basic community college classes and not own your own car, or your own place, or really your own anything! I tend to feel a bit cagey from time to time. I feel trapped and like I'll never become what I want (College Music Professor). But, I just try to set small goals for myself... the goal to get the Associate Degree (not focus so much on the Bachelor's or Master's that I'll have to get to work in any college, ugh.) Something that really helps me, though, is to look back on all the things I accomplished that I thought would have killed me: learning to drive, working an actual job, attending a public college campus after an entire life of sheltered homeschooling... I mean, these are HUGE things for me... and I think if you look hard enough, you'll find that you have accomplished a great deal. And I know what you must be thinking... Hey, beautifuldreamer is just a newbie, it's not like she really knows anyone here and you are right... but I can tell by your words in your posts that you are a special lady, Lauren, and you can achieve anything you want if you believe in yourself. ;)

[ponytail]

Don't give up. A lot of people do give it up but keep encouraging yourself. People who laugh at your dreams or goals usally don't have one themselves.

[Shine]

I'm very sorry you are feeling this way, Lauren. :( Don't give up on your dreams though. You are still very young and can make a lot out of your life.

[MrCleveland]

I have hopes to be an actor, but now it's more screenplay writer.

But hey...I can still acheive it!

[The Great One]

"Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be." ~ Karen Rav

[browneyes106]

I have sort of feel the same way you do. A few years ago a lot of people including family tried to discourage me from pursuing law school and a business law career. I kept encouraging myself and finding ways to save money for living expenses and ways to pay for law school. I will be starting law school in the fall and I have managed well. Keep going with your goals whatever they may be. Explore different opportunties.

[Hollow]

a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, they say. you're still young. you may not have the resources you need to achieve your dreams now, but that may change in the future. i know that phrases like "don't give up" sound cliche and meaningless, but i've learned how important they are to live by when it comes to achieving what you want. if you go for your goals, you could end up amazing yourself. don't get discouraged by remarks from others...they have no idea what you could be capable of with more practice. if you encounter any failures along the way, remember that it's normal and don't think of it as the end. this is crucial to remember. think of it as room for improvement and keep going. patience is vital. you have to believe in yourself and acknowledge that you are capable of doing whatever it is you want to do.

[MickeyMac]

I feel like I'll never be able to become what I want to be in life. I've told very few people what I really want to do because some of them have laughed at me and thought it was a joke. I know most people say "You can do anything you set your mind to" but I come from a small town, I've only taken a few college classes and I make $15 a day or less waiting tables. I'm just so hurt and discouraged because I want this SO BAD and I have no idea how I'll ever make it. :crying:



I know the feeling all too well. You have probably heard this before, but whatever it is you want to do, I say go for it, and screw what anybody else has to say. Its your life, not theirs.

[treky]

I feel like I'll never be able to become what I want to be in life. I've told very few people what I really want to do because some of them have laughed at me and thought it was a joke. I know most people say "You can do anything you set your mind to" but I come from a small town, I've only taken a few college classes and I make $15 a day or less waiting tables. I'm just so hurt and discouraged because I want this SO BAD and I have no idea how I'll ever make it. :crying:
Awww! Lauren sweetie, please don't feel that way. I know it's difficult but it's true that you can achieve whatever you want to in life. When you get to be my age, you'll find out that that's true. It may be hard, but it IS possible. I've had major dissapointments in my life (my mother reminded me 2 weeks ago why I've never been able to drive: it's because about 10 years ago I was tested and it was found that my reaction time isn't good enough). And people qho laugh at what you want to do aren't worth knowing, anyway. Please honey, I reapeat: don't feel that way!!!


What is your goal, anway? Since I assume you don't want to post it here, e-mail or P.M. me. (I assure you, I won't laugh. )

[Janice]

Lauren, you're a smart, witty young lady with a great personality. You can be whatever you want. You lack the self-confidence. Conquer that, find your niche, and it's yours for the taking, all of it, whatever you want (except Wayne Rogers). ;)

:bighug:

[LuLu Rogers]

Lauren, you're a smart, witty young lady with a great personality. You can be whatever you want. You lack the self-confidence. Conquer that, find your niche, and it's yours for the taking, all of it, whatever you want (except Wayne Rogers). ;)

:bighug:


but Wayne is my goal! :( ;)

[Janice]

but Wayne is my goal! :( ;)
You're not serious. Wayne can't be what you want to be in life, although it would be nice to meet him as a fan one day.

[Pus$y Galore]

Lauren, you're a smart, witty young lady with a great personality. You can be whatever you want. You lack the self-confidence. Conquer that, find your niche, and it's yours for the taking, all of it, whatever you want (except Wayne Rogers). ;)

:bighug:


Totally agree! When to actually talk to Lauren, she's even sweeter, funnier and smarter than she appear on SO (hope that doesn't come across as a put down because it isn't of course).

And Lauren, if Wayne truly is your goal (and you're not kidding) there's no reason you couldn't meet him at some point. Marriage could be a stretch tho. ;) :bighug:

[LuLu Rogers]

You're not serious. Wayne can't be what you want to be in life, although it would be nice to meet him as a fan one day.

He's not my goal, although I do hope to meet him one of these days. ;)

[Janice]

He's not my goal, although I do hope to meet him one of these days. ;)
I'll tell ya, that man just gets better with age. Here's a hypothetical for you. If you could, would you be born 50 years earlier, to meet and marry Wayne? You'd have a beautiful life with him, but you would be 71 now. The better hypothetical is if Wayne was born 50 years later, and you two were just meeting now. :)

[LuLu Rogers]

I'll tell ya, that man just gets better with age. Here's a hypothetical for you. If you could, would you be born 50 years earlier, to meet and marry Wayne? You'd have a beautiful life with him, but you would be 71 now. The better hypothetical is if Wayne was born 50 years later, and you two were just meeting now. :)

I'd rather him be born 50 years later and we'd be meeting up now, but to be with him, I'd be willing to be 50 years older than I am now. ;)

[treky]

Lauren, you're a smart, witty young lady with a great personality. You can be whatever you want. You lack the self-confidence. Conquer that, find your niche, and it's yours for the taking, all of it, whatever you want (except Wayne Rogers). ;)

:bighug:
Lauren sweetie, to get back to the main topic, I agree withEVERYTHING Janice said in this post!!
And I'll add that, even though we've never met, you sound like a VERY, VERY nice person!!! :bighug:

(and I really mean that!!!)

[KurtfromPitts]

I wanted to get into radio, maybe work as a disc jockey. Now I'm, like an earlier poster, working on being a screenplay writer.

[MickeyMac]

I wanted to get into radio, maybe work as a disc jockey. Now I'm, like an earlier poster, working on being a screenplay writer.



If you really want to get into radio, and if there is a university in your town that has a radio station, try them. Its fun and a great way to learn how radio really works. Best part you dont have to be enrolled either.

I've been doing it for over a year and enjoy it very much.

[Doodyville10019]

Lauren, don't sound like that! I would like to have my book finished and (hopefully) published one day. I realize that I'm the only one that can accomplish it, so I have to try and get past my self-doubt too. I know I have faith in my skill as a writer, but sometimes the doubt creeps in and causes me to feel down - I'm fortunate to have good friends (including my SO friends) to help and also people who are not on SO who have seen my past work and know I can do this.

Just follow your dream - have faith in your skill (or desire) - and one day it will pay off for you. There will be bumps along the road, that is for certain, but if you get past them, you'll make it! Have faith!