What's Your Level Of fear From Your Child's Confessions?

[Janice Johnson]

from 1-10, what would your level of fear be if your child told you these?

"I'm pregnant.(a 16-year old)

"I'm gay."

"I have AIDS."

"I gambled all of my savings away."

I am a drug addict."

I am an alchoholic."

I am faliling all of my classes."

I am a prostiute."

"I am a drug dealer(different from number 5)

[Hollow]

i rated somewhat loosely...

"I'm pregnant.(a 16-year old) - 8

"I'm gay." - 7

"I have AIDS." - 8

"I gambled all of my savings away." - 5

I am a drug addict." - 9

I am an alchoholic." - 9

I am faliling all of my classes." - 7

I am a prostiute." - 9

"I am a drug dealer(different from number 5) - 7

[SBTB Geek]

It's sad that "I'm gay" is even in the same list as "I'm a drug addict" and "I'm a prostitute."

[HuntingtonM15]

It's sad that "I'm gay" is even in the same list as "I'm a drug addict" and "I'm a prostitute."

Agreed.

[coffield3]

It's sad that "I'm gay" is even in the same list as "I'm a drug addict" and "I'm a prostitute."

I agree

[Shine]

It's sad that "I'm gay" is even in the same list as "I'm a drug addict" and "I'm a prostitute."

I agree too. :( There is nothing wrong with being gay.

[Hollow]

the factor here is fear, not shame. if my kids turned out gay, i would support them all the way, but i'd be afraid for them because of the challenges they would probably have to face in life. being non-hetero can't be easy in the cruel society we live in.

[LuLu Rogers]

the factor here is fear, not shame. if my kids turned out gay, i would support them all the way, but i'd be afraid for them because of the challenges they would probably have to face in life. being non-hetero can't be easy in the cruel society we live in.


I agree Sarah, that's a valid point. I know that I'll love my kids no matter what, and if they want to be gay, I can accept that, but I will worry about them because this world is hard on anyone who's different, especially homosexuals.

[SBTB Geek]

the factor here is fear, not shame. if my kids turned out gay, i would support them all the way, but i'd be afraid for them because of the challenges they would probably have to face in life. being non-hetero can't be easy in the cruel society we live in.

Great POV.

But you have to agree that there must be a correlation between those two factors.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

the factor here is fear, not shame. if my kids turned out gay, i would support them all the way, but i'd be afraid for them because of the challenges they would probably have to face in life. being non-hetero can't be easy in the cruel society we live in.
that's exactly how I would feel

that be said...


from 1-10, what would your level of fear be if your child told you these?

"I'm pregnant.(a 16-year old) 9

"I'm gay." 7

"I have AIDS." 10

"I gambled all of my savings away." 8

I am a drug addict." 9

I am an alchoholic." 9

I am faliling all of my classes." 7

I am a prostiute." 10

"I am a drug dealer(different from number 5) 9

[Janice Johnson]

I got raped

I am a kleptomaniac

I sold family heirlooms to make a quick buck

I mug people

I am flat-lined broke

[Janice Johnson]

I agree with safety pin basically...well gambling away all the savings, that would be the kid's savings right, or yours and his?

The kid's savings.............

[Janice Johnson]

If your kid gambled away his savings he has two problems. Not only is he broke but he is a compulsive gambler. You and he should both be scared.

[Hollow]

if my kid was broke, i wouldn't be too worried about it since they're probably still living under my care. i would be angry though if they were saving up a lot for college or it was due to irresponsibility such as gambling.

[Janice Johnson]

if my kid was broke, i wouldn't be too worried about it since they're probably still living under my care. i would be angry though if they were saving up a lot for college or it was due to irresponsibility such as gambling.

Gambling is just like a drug. It's all to easy to get addicted to gambling. You pay money to get more money, and when you lose your money, you play/pay more money just to win the money you lost back. You soon start stealing to play more money, and you end up losing that money. And what money you DO win back, it's usually never enough to get all the money back you originally had, so you play even more. and lose even more. And you still keep playing...... it's a viscious cycle.:(

[Zoneboy]

"I'm pregnant.(a 16-year old) 5 - I'd be supportive of her

"I'm gay." - 5, I wouldn't agree with their decision but I would suport them

"I have AIDS." -10

"I gambled all of my savings away." - 7

I am a drug addict." - 10

I am an alchoholic." -10

I am faliling all of my classes." - 5

I am a prostiute." 10

"I am a drug dealer(different from number 5) - 10

I got raped -10

I am a kleptomaniac -7

I sold family heirlooms to make a quick buck - 9

I mug people - 10

I am flat-lined broke - 2

[Hollow]

Gambling is just like a drug. It's all to easy to get addicted to gambling. You pay money to get more money, and when you lose your money, you play/pay more money just to win the money you lost back. You soon start stealing to play more money, and you end up losing that money. And what money you DO win back, it's usually never enough to get all the money back you originally had, so you play even more. and lose even more. And you still keep playing...... it's a viscious cycle.:(
oh, i don't mean to judge, i only meant gambling without any real need to (such as debt or a psychological compulsion). i've never experienced compulsive gambling or known anyone who has, but i know it's a serious and virtually uncontrollable thing. i hate it when people say things like that it's the gambler's fault that they keep buying scratch tickets or throwing in wagers. if my child were broke due to a gambling addiction, rather than just for the fun of trying to win money, i'd definitely be scared.

[Faith]

"I'm pregnant.(a 16-year old)-6

"I'm gay." 7

"I have AIDS." 10

"I gambled all of my savings away." 8

I am a drug addict." 7

I am an alcoholic." 7

I am failing all of my classes." 5

I am a prostitute." 10

"I am a drug dealer(different from number 5) 6

I got raped- 10

I am a kleptomaniac- 6

I sold family heirlooms to make a quick buck-8

I mug people-6

I am flat-lined broke-8

[Janice Johnson]

"I'm pregnant.(a 16-year old)-6

"I'm gay." 7

"I have AIDS." 10

"I gambled all of my savings away." 8

I am a drug addict." 7

I am an alcoholic." 7

I am failing all of my classes." 5

I am a prostitute." 10

"I am a drug dealer(different from number 5) 6

I got raped- 10

I am a kleptomaniac- 6

I sold family heirlooms to make a quick buck-8

I mug people-6

I am flat-lined broke-8. So Faith youd rather have your child tell you that they are pregnant than that they are gay? :rolleyes:

[Faith]

. So Faith youd rather have your child tell you that they are pregnant than that they are gay? :rolleyes:

Yeah, pregnancy I can deal with. My child coming home beat up or worse because of their sexuality no I can't deal with that.

[Janice Johnson]

Hmm. To me, I'd rather have my child tell me that their gay than that their pregnant............. :cool:

[Tweety]

the factor here is fear, not shame. if my kids turned out gay, i would support them all the way, but i'd be afraid for them because of the challenges they would probably have to face in life. being non-hetero can't be easy in the cruel society we live in.


Yes, excellent point. The question is not about making value judgments on the situations listed.