Some Advice Please...

[cmcb06]

My family has never been to happy or accepting of the fact I was gay, but it was so apalling what happened today. My 12 year old nephew accused me of molesting him. My family believes him, and my parents are no longer allowed to see their grandchildren because my siblings are a afraid i'll molest and rape them too. And my family told me that I have to change to being straight, or else I will be kicked out of the house, and no longer be able to communicate with my family. I'm just so sad that this happened to me I never thought my family would be so cruel. And I just feel like i've blown my 2nd family. When I was 5 my biological father had died in a serious car accident, and my mom started doing drugs and i went through many bad things. Shortly after my grandparents on my mom's side had adopted me and now this happens. I just don't know why these things seem to happen to me.

[TheGreatPretender]

I'm so sorry you have to live with that. :( You should tell them that if they were any family to you at all they would accept you for all you can be which is yourself. That's my best advice, and your nephew sounds like a lying sack of ****. I hope things start working out for you soon.

[MsOrange]

Did you do something that made him make those claims? Like make him mad and he's revoking revenge? Why is he making a claim like that. That's very serious.

[cmcb06]

He has always hated me for some odd reason, don't know why. I've never done anything to him but he's always making up false accusations against me etc. and this is by far the worst I don't know why he hates me so much, i've never done anything mean to him in my life.

[Penny Lane]

Some people assume because someone is gay that he is a child molester Most pedophiles are straight(except in the head). It sounds to me that this kid may have been coached into accusing you because you are gay. I really don't know how to help you. Wish I could!:(

[Hollow]

And my family told me that I have to change to being straight, or else I will be kicked out of the house, and no longer be able to communicate with my family.
you need to tell them that you can't 'change' from being a homosexual in the first place, and that your sexual orientation is irrelevant to the likelihood that you'd be molesting or raping anyone. if you're ever alone with your nephew you should ask him why he told your family that; but i'd try not to do it too angrily so it wouldn't intimidate and silence him. it probably wouldn't resolve everything to get an answer out of him, but it could help. hopefully karma will pay its dues in the end.

[Sharop]

Is there some way you could get your nephew to admit that he lied? Or at least some way to convince your family yourself that you didn't molest him? It sounds like your family is telling you that you have to "change" simply because of your cousin's "revelation" - in the past, it seems they grudgingly accepted it.

So maybe if there was some way you could convince them that your nephew was lying, they'd go back to allowing you to be gay and stay in the house.

[Janice]

I don't know if you can file slander charges against a 12 year old, but maybe you should contact a lawyer for advice on what's happening. I'm sorry for the sad life you've had, but this problem is serious.

I don't know what's up with your family telling you to go straight. It's like asking someone to change their height or the color of their eyes.

[Number 9 Dream]

That's really horrible and I can't believe your own nephew would accuse you of that. That sounds like such a tough situation. On one hand, it's your family and you'd like to be able to see them, but on the other...who wants to go in to a place where they are not accepted for who they are?

I'm sorry :(

[Yooch]

Hang in there and don't let yourself be intimidated by false accusations. These kinds of things, in the long run, will implode in on the accusers and you will be vindicated. Know that you have friends on SO.

[swedeace]

I agree with everyone else. Hang in there. I'm sorry this is happening. Sometimes life is tough and so irrational.