Jealousy

[Brieannas21]

Would you have a problem if your Husband/Wife/Girlfriend/Boyfriend had a good friend of the opposite sex? Would you trust the friend? And would you have a problem if they were to go out and do things like shopping or out to lunch without you?

OR

Would your significant other have a problem with the situation if the role was reversed?

[TVFactFan]

Would you have a problem if your Husband/Wife/Girlfriend/Boyfriend had a good friend of the opposite sex? Would you trust the friend? And would you have a problem if they were to go out and do things like shopping or out to lunch without you?

OR

Would your significant other have a problem with the situation if the role was reversed?



When a woman is involved with a man, she is not supposed to go out with OTHER STRAIGHT MEN. I don't care if it's platonic or not. And as good you as look, I defintely would have a problem with it-lol Sounds like u told you told your hubby me and you went to red lobster in philly-lol

[James"Thunder"Early]

I wouldn't mind at all, you have to trust when you are in a relationship. If you feel you can't trust them, then that's not good for the relationship.

[rusyd]

I would have a problem with it and so would my fiance.

[Brieannas21]

When a woman is involved with a man, she is not supposed to go out with OTHER STRAIGHT MEN. I don't care if it's platonic or not. And as good you as look, I defintely would have a problem with it-lol Sounds like u told you told your hubby me and you went to red lobster in philly-lol


Ok first I stood you up and now we ate at Red Lobster, which one is it ? :lol: And my husband would know that's a lie since I don't like Reb Lobster. I'll be back on the 6th

I wouldn't mind at all, you have to trust when you are in a relationship. If you feel you can't trust them, then that's not good for the relationship.

That's how I feel, my husband wouldn't have a problem with it and I wouldn't have a problem with it. BUT I have a friend who's new girlfriend who does have a problem with it, and I'm the one who hooked them up.

[TVFactFan]

Ok first I stood you up and now we ate at Red Lobster, which one is it ? :lol: And my husband would know that's a lie since I don't like Reb Lobster. I'll be back on the 6th



That's how I feel, my husband wouldn't have a problem with it and I wouldn't have a problem with it. BUT I have a friend who's new girlfriend who does have a problem with it, and I'm the one who hooked them up.




July 6th is a bad time to come to Philly because of the large crowds of people coming in for the Annual Greek Picnic

[Brieannas21]

July 6th is a bad time to come to Philly because of the large crowds of people coming in for the Annual Greek Picnic


I doubt my boss really cares :lol: it could be a blizzard there and he would still find a way to go. But I'll be there for 2 days then I go to Erie for 2 days

[Dutabi84]

I'd probably feel a little uncomfortable, but I wouldn't tell her who she can or can't be friends with.

[Ireneparalegal]

July 6th is a bad time to come to Philly because of the large crowds of people coming in for the Annual Greek Picnic
I didn't know you were Greek Solomon?

[Mr. Stefani]

I wouldnt have a problem with it. One of my bestfriends is a girl, been good friends for years now, will be that way til the day i die. I had a girlfriend who had a problem with it, gave her the boot. People these days can't seem to get that a male and female can be friends and not having anything else going on.

[TVFactFan]

I didn't know you were Greek Solomon?


I'm not Greek-lol-LMAO, that's an event for people who were in fraternities or sororities when they were in college

[Brieannas21]

I'm not Greek-lol-LMAO, that's an event for people who were in fraternities or sororities when they were in college


Yeah Soror Sister was telling me about it the other day.

[Brieannas21]

People these days can't seem to get that a male and female can be friends and not having anything else going on.

Exactly

[Ireneparalegal]

I'm not Greek-lol-LMAO, that's an event for people who were in fraternities or sororities when they were in college
So, if one is greek, they can't go to this event unless they were in a fraternity or sorority????:confused:

How should a huge greek festival keep one person away from meeting you???? People don't stop traveling because of one greek festival.

[Brieannas21]

So, if one is greek, they can't go to this event unless they were in a fraternity or sorority????:confused:

How should a huge greek festival keep one person away from meeting you???? People don't stop traveling because of one greek festival.


You don't have to be in a sorority or frat to attend, But it's held for fraternities and sororities.

[swedeace]

I am always the type of person who believes things should be fair and mutual on both sides. The key word is "trust" for no matter which sex of the spouse/significant other it pertains. If both sides have no trust and especially don't communicate it, then that just leads to potential problems and even resentment in the end.

I often wonder about that when it comes down to me. I am quite a jealous person. I have become jealous of friends' relationships with other friends/people in the past, so I would like to believe that if I were to trust my future boyfriend/husband, I would learn to control that jealousy. It would be the same for the other way with him towards me.

Some of you mentioned about how society doesn't usually believe a man and a woman can be "just friends." That's a very interesting subject because we learned about that when I took Gender in Sociology nearly two years ago.

Imagine this - If you think it's mostly impossible, then you are in for a treat. There was a time when it was virtually unheard of for a man AND a woman hanging out/befriending each other be ALL platonic. This was about the 50s or 60s. I mean, that just was NOT possible as much as it is now. But our society is being more acceptable about it as than during that time frame. During that time, it was considered "weird" if a man or a woman had a friend of the opposite sex. People didn't accept it and were calling these people "liars" by saying it was impossible because of sexual tension. So, the spouse/significant other were quickly pegged as "having an affair." I mean, yes, there CAN be attraction and there CAN be NON-attraction. It's all unique depending on the individuals.

Very interesting subject. I bet I could post some interesting stuff from those textbooks, if anyone's interested. ;)

[dawsongirl]

I'm just a jealous type. But I wouldn't want someone telling me who not to be friends with, so I wouldn't tell them.

[Ireneparalegal]

i heard a joke by Chris Rock...now, i don't know word for word, but i will put the general idea here abt females having males for friends.

In essence, women who have male friends are just really friends with them "JUST IN CASE"...just in case "s**t happens with their own man...LOL

also, i heard a similar joke abt women who have males for friends mean two things: the guy is gay or the guy is ugly...

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: okay, just had to put those here.

[Brad Russ]

I wouldn't have much of a problem with it, as long is it wasn't a really really close friendship. If this guy came over like two or more times a week, and was like real touchy feely, then you damn well better believe I'd be jeolous. On the other hand, if the guy just called once or twice a week, and visited her every month or so, I doubt I'd have a problem with that.

By nature, Iv'e always been a jealous person. That's actually one of my biggest problems is jealousy, something Iv'e struggled with my whole life. I think it first became a big problem when my best friend basically dumped me, to be best buds with one of my other friends. :mad: Since then, Iv'e had an incredibly hard time trusting people, and when it has to do with a girl you like, and another guy, it's all that much more difficult.

[Brian Damage]

I lost a very dear friend because her fiance was jealous of me.

[Brieannas21]

I lost a very dear friend because her fiance was jealous of me.


That's what I'm trying to avoid, And the girl know that my friend isn't even my flavor, and plus I wouldn't even go there.

[Mijada]

I wouldn't have a problem with it. I trust my husband. Although he's the kind of guy that if he did have a close female friend that he liked hanging out with he would never go off and do things with her without inviting me to come along. I had a close guy friend that I used to work with that I still see from time to time and my husband doesn't have a problem with it.

[vienna waits]

i have way too many friends that are girls so if i had a girlfriend i couldn't really say anything if she had a lot of guy friends.

[GARFIELDKOOL]

Would you have a problem if your Husband/Wife/Girlfriend/Boyfriend had a good friend of the opposite sex? Would you trust the friend? And would you have a problem if they were to go out and do things like shopping or out to lunch without you?

OR

Would your significant other have a problem with the situation if the role was reversed?

That's a hard one for me answer. It all depends, though. I used to get kind of touchy when my ex would talk about certain men she thought that were attractive around me, which I thought was disrespectful. I say don't even do that in your current's presence. But, my sister's boyfriend is very insecure, if that counts on this thread. If she is out with her female counterparts, he wants to know about it and clocks her evry move.