Do you love yourself?

[jsizzle]

I've come in contact with alot of people who misconstrue self-confidence with self-love. I know lots of people love themselves but still have reservations about wanting to change, how many of us just love everything about ourselves and wouldn't change for the world?

[Kristina]

No. I hate myself.


GOTHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[Georgia's on my Mind]

i hate myself. but im still better than 85% of the population.

[Liza]

I try. I'm not doing so well right now - gone back into Depression. :(

[dawsongirl]

Depends on the day. Some days I'm happy, some days I feel like a worthless piece of crap.

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by Liza
I try. I'm not doing so well right now - gone back into Depression. :(

:( Sorry to hear that. I went back to anxiety last week. I hate when that happens.

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

I love myself. :heart: I never hate myself, just distgusted with myself.

[PZelda]

I love myself :biglove:

[Bang A Gong]

I hate myself.

[Liza]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
:( Sorry to hear that. I went back to anxiety last week. I hate when that happens.

Thanks. Yeah, it's hard, but what can you do? Life goes on :)

[Kay Scarpetta]

I've hated myself every day for the past two and a half years. Why stop now?

[TJL]

I wouldn't say I was in love with myself. I don't think I could handle that kind of commitment.

So I'd say I'm just good friends with myself.

;)

[Czas na Zywiec]

I think we all know the answer for about 98% of the people on this board.

"Nope, infact I hate myself."

Now we don't have to go through pages and pages of people saying they hate themselves. :)

[Seth]

Most days, I'm indifferent

[Kazza]

I love myself more than even before...since I was married to a heartless %^&*((*&*^^^:rolleyes:

[Hollow]

I started losing self esteem about 4 years ago, now it's all gone. I hate myself. Everyone else hates me too. last night i learned for the first time that AC stands for air conditioner. shows how stupid i am.

[david&maddie4ever]

Of course I love myself! :biglove:

I don't understand how someone can hate themselves. I mean, if you don't like who you are...change!

[Georgia's on my Mind]

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever
Of course I love myself! :biglove:

I don't understand how someone can hate themselves. I mean, if you don't like who you are...change!
its easier said than done.

[david&maddie4ever]

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind
its easier said than done.

Yeah, you're probably right. :nod: It just bothers me how some people just despise themselves when they actually have the power to fix whatever's wrong. :o

[fr00ti]

I hate myself, sometimes I wish I was a completely different person. Then maybe I could have the things I love.

[Hollow]

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever
when they actually have the power to fix whatever's wrong. :o
nope.

[MaydayMalonesGirl]

I hate certain things about myself. I wish I knew how to interact with people instead of always being by myself all the time... that's the biggest thing I wish I could change.

I voted "I hate myself" But now that I'm thinking about it, that's not completely true. There are somethings about myself that I love and I would never change. So it's sort of 50/50.

[Kazza]

There are so many pesimistics on this board :rolleyes: How can you live that way?

[Georgia's on my Mind]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
There are so many pesimistics on this board :rolleyes: How can you live that way?
omigah lyke i kno we're lyke ahh omigah cynics. ew!!!!!!1111oneoneone

[MaydayMalonesGirl]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
There are so many pesimistics on this board :rolleyes: How can you live that way?

Some people have problems that force them to live unhappily, it's not their fault.

[Hollow]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
There are so many pesimistics on this board :rolleyes: How can you live that way?
Wow, maybe you live in a sunshine fairytale land where everything is perfect, that doesnt mean we all do. :rolleyes:

[EricIdlefan]

I put myself last because I was taught to love others more and to put others and their cares, needs, and wants in the world first and foremost important!!

[Penny Lane]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
Depends on the day. Some days I'm happy, some days I feel like a worthless piece of crap.

Yup, I know what you mean. We all have days like that! :(

I like myself I guess but circumstances can really make one doubt oneself sometimes! That's only human.;)

[Kazza]

Originally posted by safety pin
Wow, maybe you live in a sunshine fairytale land where everything is perfect, that doesnt mean we all do. :rolleyes:

I don't live in a fairy tale but I'm not complaining about how sorry I feel for myself and how life sucks...I can't afford that luxury!

[Hollow]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
I don't live in a fairy tale but I'm not complaining about how sorry I feel for myself and how life sucks...I can't afford that luxury!
neither are we. we answered the damn question.

[KerriBerri687]

well i have low self esteem but i cant say i hate myself because i dont. there are certain qualities i have that i like, and then there are those i hate....but they sort of even eachother out so id say im in the middle

[david&maddie4ever]

I don't know about everybody else here, but sometimes when I'm on SO, I feel like I'm the only one in the world who actually feels good about herself.

I mean, I know people have problems...and that's okay...but I feel like I'm all by myself in thinking that life is pretty darn good the way it is. There are just so many people here who aren't thrilled with themselves. :(

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
There are so many pesimistics on this board :rolleyes: How can you live that way?

Um...it's not exactly a choice. There's some things I like about myself, but there's other things I hate so much that I can't change. I always feel like ****...if I say one little thing mean to someone, even if I'm joking, I'll feel bad about it. It's so hard for me to talk to people, there's another thing I hate about myself. I'm annoying, there's another. All the time talking to people all I can think about it how stupid they must think I am, even if it's friends. I just always feel like an ass and it's something you just can't help...because believe me, if I could be a happier person, I would be.

[Ewan's My Man]

I love myself, sure there are things I would CHANGE, but that doesn't mean I don't love myself.

[Kazza]

Originally posted by safety pin
neither are we. we answered the damn question.

You are not complaining, just whining on how sorry your life is and that you have no choice but to live that way..that's victimization and low self respect and steem

[Rhiannon]

Uusally, but I really piss myself off sometimes.

[david&maddie4ever]

Originally posted by *A TV People*
Um...it's not exactly a choice. There's some things I like about myself, but there's other things I hate so much that I can't change. I always feel like ****...if I say one little thing mean to someone, even if I'm joking, I'll feel bad about it. It's so hard for me to talk to people, there's another thing I hate about myself. I'm annoying, there's another. All the time talking to people all I can think about it how stupid they must think I am, even if it's friends. I just always feel like an ass and it's something you just can't help...because believe me, if I could be a happier person, I would be.

Well, you may be tentative in person, Ashlee, but that's the beauty of computers and SO. Your friends here know how awesome you are, and if we met you face to face, we'd think you're awesome, too.

:yourock:

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
You are not complaining, just whining on how sorry your life is and that you have no choice but to live that way..that's victimization and low self respect and steem

Once again, it's not a choice. Some people like you are lucky enough to be born without low-self esteem and they can't understand for anything with it's like, so they just blame it on the person feeling sorry for themselves.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever
Well, you may be tentative in person, Ashlee, but that's the beauty of computers and SO. Your friends here know how awesome you are, and if we met you face to face, we'd think you're awesome, too.

:yourock:

Aw, thanks. :bighug:

[Hollow]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
You are not complaining, just whining on how sorry your life is and that you have no choice but to live that way..that's victimization and low self respect and steem
The question was: "Do you love yourself?". We don't So, we said no. Explain how answering a question is whining.

[Kazza]

Originally posted by safety pin
The question was: "Do you love yourself?". We don't So, we said no. Explain how answering a question is whining.

Because you keep on and on worse than the Energizer bunny..did you had some Vitameatavegamin tonite?

[Kazza]

Originally posted by *A TV People*
Once again, it's not a choice. Some people like you are lucky enough to be born without low-self esteem and they can't understand for anything with it's like, so they just blame it on the person feeling sorry for themselves.

I may have been born without low self steem but I've had a very deep moment of lack of it in my life and had to get up from it and start all over again; turn from pesimistic to optimistic. Out of lemons make a good lemonade.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
I may have been born without low self steem but I've had a very deep moment of lack of it in my life and had to get up from it and start all over again; turn from pesimistic to optimistic. Out of lemons make a good lemonade.

I guess it's just easier for some people. I mean, I try to be happy. In fact, I usually don't come off as a sulky, whoa is me person at all. I try to act as happy and nice around people as possible, but it's all cover. I feel like **** inside.

[Kazza]

Originally posted by *A TV People*
I guess it's just easier for some people. I mean, I try to be happy. In fact, I usually don't come off as a sulky, whoa is me person at all. I try to act as happy and nice around people as possible, but it's all cover. I feel like **** inside.

Life is too short not to be turned around. If I stayed like that j&*(&(*&&* of ex- hub left me I wouldn't even be here but my life is more important than that and my daughters are too. Sometimes we may feel like crap inside but have to put our best front and face the world

[Hollow]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
Because you keep on and on worse than the Energizer bunny..did you had some Vitameatavegamin tonite?
:rolleyes: I'm not "going on and on," the only posts ive made in this thread besides the first one were replies to your stupid ones. Is saying that im not whining the same thing as whining? i dont think so!

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
Life is too short not to be turned around. If I stayed like that j&*(&(*&&* of ex- hub left me I wouldn't even be here but my life is more important than that and my daughters are too. Sometimes we may feel like crap inside but have to put our best front and face the world

I know that, and I try to be happy. But sometimes I think my life is pathetic and will never go anywhere. I know that's stupid to say, I'm only 14...but sometimes it feels that way and it makes everything seem useless.

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by EricIdlefan
I put myself last because I was taught to love others more and to put others and their cares, needs, and wants in the world first and foremost important!! I was taught that way too. I still put myself and my needs before anyone elses. I know its not right but, hey, I know Ill always be there for myself.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
I was taught that way too. I still put myself and my needs before anyone elses. I know its not right but, hey, I know Ill always be there for myself.

Yeah, I'm the same way. I feel like I always have to please other people, too.

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever
I don't know about everybody else here, but sometimes when I'm on SO, I feel like I'm the only one in the world who actually feels good about herself.

I mean, I know people have problems...and that's okay...but I feel like I'm all by myself in thinking that life is pretty darn good the way it is. There are just so many people here who aren't thrilled with themselves. :(
I agree. I mean, I read some of youse problems and Im just like damn.. I cant relate- and Im older than most of the people on here with the problems! Its probably good Ive never really been through anything nor do I have any big issues, but its not all good. I have my issues. My body, money, my non-existent boyfriend.. *sigh* I let these things get to me sometimes, but then after I tell myself how great I am (:biglove: ) and tell myself how some celebrities and stuff went through the same things, and now theyre successful and happy. Telling myself that my problems causing me stress arent as big as everyone elses makes the problems better for me to deal with.:)

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by *A TV People*
Yeah, I'm the same way. I feel like I always have to please other people, too. :nod: Im such a people pleaser. I try not to upset anyone and hate confrontations! But when it comes to my needs and others.. hell Im selfish. :lol:

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by Czas na Zywiec
I think we all know the answer for about 98% of the people on this board.

"Nope, infact I hate myself."

Now we don't have to go through pages and pages of people saying they hate themselves. :)

I'm 2%!

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
I still put myself and my needs before anyone elses. I know its not right but, hey, I know Ill always be there for myself.

I do too. When I didn't, I got burned. So a lot of times it's me me me.

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
I do too. When I didn't, I got burned. So a lot of times it's me me me. Exactly. People call me selfish and say I should be 'ashamed' for being so inconsiderate of others.. hell, I cant win!:lol:

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
Exactly. People call me selfish and say I should be 'ashamed' for being so inconsiderate of others.. hell, I cant win!:lol:

We oughta just crawl in a hole! Except you have to get your own hole. I am NOT sharing.

:lol:

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
We oughta just crawl in a hole! Except you have to get your own hole. I am NOT sharing.

:lol: That is so selfish and inconsiderate!!:mad: Have a heart!!

:lol: :crazy:

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
That is so selfish and inconsiderate!!:mad: Have a heart!!

:lol: :crazy:

:heart: Now get away from my hole. You're bringing down the resale value. ;)

[Kazza]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
I'm 2%!

I prefer whole milk! LOL:lol:

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
:heart: Now get away from my hole. You're bringing down the resale value. ;)
:o :mad: Thats it. *buries hole* :lookaroun

See, I managed to make a hole for myself, while helping you at the same time. Im so nice.:D

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
:o :mad: Thats it. *buries hole* :lookaroun

See, I managed to make a hole for myself, while helping you at the same time. Im so nice.:D

:cuss: I have dirt in my hair!!

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by I'maDESIlover
I prefer whole milk! LOL:lol:

:lol:

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
:cuss: I have dirt in my hair!! ...... :crybaby: One of the many cons of being buried alive I suppose. Wish I could relate!

[jsizzle]

Originally posted by *A TV People*
I always feel like ****...if I say one little thing mean to someone, even if I'm joking, I'll feel bad about it. It's so hard for me to talk to people, there's another thing I hate about myself. I'm annoying, there's another. All the time talking to people all I can think about it how stupid they must think I am, even if it's friends.
That I feel, some people do give off bad vibes, which would make some unsure person feel even smaller. That's why I try to be an open mind.

A while back on a certain board there was a big misunderstandin between a homosexual and a homophobe. I thought the argument was stupid and no matter what you believe people should be like, everyone has the given right to live the way they want. It's crazy that, this country provides you with freedom of speech and expression, but there is always the fine print, or the reservations of what they will except you to be like. I think we'd have less problems as a people if "freedom" was practiced the right way.

I believe That has something to do with how you feel about yourself, the fact that you know it's ok to be yourself.

[fr00ti]

Just because a person hates themselves, it doesnt mean they want you to feel sorry for them, because the people that want people to feel sorry for them probably are really lame and just want attention. I, myself am not one of those people. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me. Probably most of the people that said they do hate themselves don't want you telling them that they need to just change themselves, because that really doesn't help. I know if I achieve the things I want one day, I might not hate myself 90% of the time anymore. Just my opinion.

[jsizzle]

Originally posted by .:mads:.
Just because a person hates themselves, it doesnt mean they want you to feel sorry for them, because the people that want people to feel sorry for them probably are really lame and just want attention. I, myself am not one of those people. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me. Probably most of the people that said they do hate themselves don't want you telling them that they need to just change themselves, because that really doesn't help. I know if I achieve the things I want one day, I might not hate myself 90% of the time anymore. Just my opinion.
I agree. There was no sympothy regarded for this thread, I just had a feeling that there were more people that had reservations about themselves.

The question really was, "do you love yourself?", not whether you loved or hated yourself. Self-Love to me, comes with age, ambition and wisdom. I think the older you get you become more of a thinker and less of a reactor. When I was younger, I had days where I wished I could have more responsibilities but hated the work it took to get there. Like now, everything I was told at an earlier age comes into play, and days where I feel like giving up, become less of a problem because I plug in ways of dealing with that. I was just saying before people make it hard to be yourself, but as you grow and understand it becomes less of a burden, to actually be yourself.
I don't know if I'm leading off subject, or what?

[EricIdlefan]

It isn't beauty on the outside that counts but on the inside and I would rather be like an "average Jane or Joe" than a model and have a crappy attitude!!

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
...... :crybaby: One of the many cons of being buried alive I suppose. Wish I could relate!

*kicks Crystal*

[Janice]

Like everyone, I could use some improvement, but yeah, I love myself.

I love my husband, my family and friends....I love my cat....so it's natural for me to love myself too.

I love myself so much that I'm going to give myself a big hug.

:bighug:

[Microprosa]

I love myself. If I could run across a beach into my own arms, I would.

[NancyTracey&Jon]

Well, I love myself to a point. But I think the definition of loving yourself, is loving who you are inside and out regardless of what anyone else thinks. And as that is defined, no I don't love myself. But I love myself in the sense that I am headstrong and know what I want to do with my life, and I'm confident I'll get it done regardless of what anyone else thinks. BUT to truly love myself as I just defined, I don't think I'll be able to say I do until I stop caring what everyone else thinks of me. Of course, that in itself is hard, because if you don't care what they think about you TOO MUCH, then you look cold and heartless to others feelings. And I don't want that. It's a fine line between the two. Also, it's two TOTALLY different things, to love yourself, and to be IN love with yourself. If you are in love with yourself, THEN you are over the fine line to the side of not caring what anyone thinks, and you will then look cold and heartless. So by my not being in love with myself I don't cross that fine line!!!


Make any sense????

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by .:mads:.
Just because a person hates themselves, it doesnt mean they want you to feel sorry for them, because the people that want people to feel sorry for them probably are really lame and just want attention. I, myself am not one of those people. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me. Probably most of the people that said they do hate themselves don't want you telling them that they need to just change themselves, because that really doesn't help. I know if I achieve the things I want one day, I might not hate myself 90% of the time anymore. Just my opinion.

That's how I feel. I don't even show that I hate myself, and only complain about it when I'm feeling really down. People who want attention will always complain and do crazy things and blame it on depression or something. *******s :rolleyes:

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by dawsongirl
*kicks Crystal*
Ow. :cuss: *flings mud*

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally posted by jsizzle
I agree. There was no sympothy regarded for this thread, I just had a feeling that there were more people that had reservations about themselves.

The question really was, "do you love yourself?", not whether you loved or hated yourself. Self-Love to me, comes with age, ambition and wisdom. I think the older you get you become more of a thinker and less of a reactor. When I was younger, I had days where I wished I could have more responsibilities but hated the work it took to get there. Like now, everything I was told at an earlier age comes into play, and days where I feel like giving up, become less of a problem because I plug in ways of dealing with that. I was just saying before people make it hard to be yourself, but as you grow and understand it becomes less of a burden, to actually be yourself.
I don't know if I'm leading off subject, or what?

Other people do make it hard to be yourself. I'm one of those people that all they can think about is what other people think, and it sucks. That's why I'm shy and quiet in school. I just don't want people saying bad things about me, so I just don't do anything at all. I must look like an ass, too. I just don't have the guts to get past that.

[EricIdlefan]

I need these things:
Self-confidence
Self-worth
Self-assurance
Self-discipline

[dlemond]

Originally posted by Microprosa
I love myself. If I could run across a beach into my own arms, I would.

Nice Jackie Burkhardt quote.

[Hollow]

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
I try not to upset anyone and hate confrontations!
ive had the biggest problem with that my whole life. when someone makes a mistake without noticing, no matter how miniscule, i cant tell them. i dont know why.

[Hollow]

Originally posted by EricIdlefan
I need these things:
Self-confidence
Self-worth
Self-assurance
Self-discipline
i was gonna list everything i need to change (which i cant) but it would take too long.